I kept telling myself "they're fine." I finally built something because I didn't actually know.
Every Sunday, I call my parents in India. Good call, everyone's fine, we hang up. A few days later, I find out — from a relative, almost by accident — that my mother's knee has been bothering her for two weeks, or she skipped dinner three nights running, or…
Every Sunday, I call my parents in India. Good call, everyone's fine, we hang up. A few days later, I find out — from a relative, almost by accident — that my mother's knee has been bothering her for two weeks, or she skipped dinner three nights running, or she went to the doctor alone because she didn't want to bother me. She's not lying. "I'm fine" is just easier to say than the truth, in five rushed minutes, for both of us — and I've heard the same story from strangers on forums for people like us, an ocean between them and the people who raised them. One person gave up on home cameras, because a camera still needs someone sitting there watching it. Another pointed out that even a sibling living nearby doesn't fix how slowly the small stuff travels. Distance isn't just miles — sometimes it's a full calendar, sometimes it's just how short a phone call is. Solution Not a camera. Not a wearable she has to remember to charge. Just a phone call — the thing she already knows how to answer — except this one actually pays attention. Here's how it works: an AI calls your parent every day, at a time they choose, in their language. A real, warm, unhurried conversation — their morning walk, what they cooked, how they slept — not a robotic checklist. Afterward, you get a short, honest summary: how they sounded, whether they took their medication, and anything worth a second look — a skipped meal, a new ache, low energy three days running. If it's something small, it just sits in your daily summary, quietly building a pattern you can actually see over time instead of losing it to memory. If it's something real — a fall, real distress, a symptom that shouldn't wait — it escalates immediately, to you and a local contact, not buried three taps deep in an app. Not a replacement for a doctor. Not a replacement for you visiting. Just the thing that catches the "I'm fine" gap before it turns into a hospital visit — the daily check-in I wish I'd had every Sunday for the last five years.
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Building an app instead of spending an extra five or ten mins on the phone with your parents is...something. Maybe market to people with narcissistic or abusive parents they don't want to interact with personally.
Yeesh. How dehumanizing
Are we living in a robotic era?
Good job, OP. Sounds interesting. Please post this to r/IMadeThis instead of this sub. It belongs there, not here.
Good idea
I think if you frame it as a diary or something it might be more palatable. Maybe you might mention a movie or book you read and it could keep track of that in addition to "how do I feel" kind of life tracking.
Not sure whether I would use it or not, but I get the feeling that my kids might use it on me